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One of life challenges. Still training my facial expression-to not so obvious feels annoyed-when talking to stubborn, annoying, or stupid people.

Learn how to communicate with different character needs process. Eventually, it could works well or failed but... having a goodwill to facing them and encourage ourselves to make it works is something. 😊

MAYA509 tulis:

Communication

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It is important that you avoid committing to plans and projects if you dont have all the information. Ask for more details and, when appropriate, speak to professionals such as counselors, financial advisors, solicitors  or teachers. It is okay if you dont have all the answers - that's why we have professionals!

LIEZT708 tulis:

One of life challenges. Still training my facial expression-to not so obvious feels annoyed-when talking to stubborn, annoying, or stupid people.

Learn how to communicate with different character needs process. Eventually, it could works well or failed but... having a goodwill to facing them and encourage ourselves to make it works is something. 😊

Nail it, sist!

I still learning to less expressive, since born to be joyfull. Hard to keep my face straight. By chance if sista find a place to learn poker face, let me know too yaaa.....need to learn that.

Communicate with different characters is okay with me. But it also include learning their cultures, customs, education and famiy backgrounds. The most hardest to cope for me is pure asian people that have not been contact with western world. It is so hard, from even as simple as hello friends untill business meeting. They use English, but culture grammar of their first language. 🙈🙈😭😭😭😭😭

There is so much truth in these words.  For those whom resonate with below writting please heal your wounds.🙏🏻

"For those who have suffered severe trauma, developing deeply intimate relationships isn't just difficult - it can be terrifying! It often takes a very long time. When you fight for so long, it's hard to put down the armor.

But this struggle to surrender can also be a gift. Here's why...

Our unhealed wounds keep us hidden behind walls, vigilantly scanning, asking the questions: "How do I know you won't manipulate or betray my heart like others before? How have you proven that you are consistently trustworthy? Can I rely on you in times of need? Do you truly care for my BEing, or just what I DO for you? Am I seen and met for who I truly am? Are you strong enough to handle me without the filters and walls I put up? How do I know you're worth giving my everything to?"

These are important questions which are often mistakenly marginalized as "anxiety and neurosis" by those with an "easier life" that don't understand. If we ignore these concerns, either in desperation, loneliness, and wishful thinking, we wind up pouring ourselves in to imbalanced half-relationships with half-lovers and half-friends. The impass is that we are unable to allow ourselves to be fully emotionally connected to others, but we can't stop seeking love, however we can find it.

Since we have developed an emotional resiliency and strength enduring a difficult life, we often play the role of caretaker, protector, workaholic, or co-dependent lover in an attempt to receive some validation, even if it's just for what we can provide. At first, we enjoy playing the role of the "White Knight" but we inevitably resent it. Unless we recognize our own part in enabling these imbalanced relationships, they will inevitably repeat. We will waste years, passing by healthier opportunities, leading to more disappointment, resentment, distrust and regret.

To avoid this unconscious trap, we need to learn to give love to ourselves by maintaining discernment in relationships. Find a healthy social balance instead of just isolating ourselves. Focus on quality over quantity. Maintain healthy barriers by only allowing ourselves to open up and explore with influences who are safe and non-toxic. Confront unhealed wounds through books, knowledgable peers, and somatic therapists until we are emotionally resourced enough to understand what a healthy relationship looks like in our life.

By working through our blockages, we are forced to become far more astutely intimate with ourselves. This is a blessing in disguise, if only we have the courage and conviction to see the journey through. By increasingly healing and understanding ourselves, we learn to live and love so much more deeply. And through our heightened awareness, we are no longer subject to the same emotional injuries which frees us from the need to hide ourselves."  ~Humberto B

Wow. This is DEEP. 😅

This is what am still working on.

Thank you for remind me to continue the healing process.

LIEZT708 tulis:

Wow. This is DEEP. 😅

This is what am still working on.

Thank you for remind me to continue the healing process.

Your very welcome sist. 😊🙏🏻

We all do. This is life time learning.

Love ourselves first than we can start love others either woman or man. Love ourselves not ego thing. It is bravely to accept our faults, our mistakes, our negative traits, our past trauma, our feeling rejected from family, friends, society,,,,,all ours. Should be done before we demand it love from other people.

Once we fully love ourselves, we found peace in side ourselves. Then we can project unconditional love to others like Lord Jesus' teach us.

Yes.. yet the ugly & worse thing if we feel better but actually we are not. Looks so ugly.. aplgi kalo gk nyadar  😄🤗😊

LIEZT708 tulis:

One of life challenges. Still training my facial expression-to not so obvious feels annoyed-when talking to stubborn, annoying, or stupid people.

Learn how to communicate with different character needs process. Eventually, it could works well or failed but... having a goodwill to facing them and encourage ourselves to make it works is something. 😊

"Relationship has true significance only when it is a process of self-revelation, when it is revealing oneself in the very action of relationship. But most of us do not want to be revealed in relationship. On the contrary, we use relationship as a means of covering up our own insufficiency, our own troubles, our own uncertainty. So relationship becomes mere movement, mere activity. I do not know if you have noticed that relationship is very painful, and that as long as it is not a revealing process, in which you are discovering yourself, relationship is merely a means of escape from yourself.~

~J. K

MAYA509 tulis:

"Relationship has true significance only when it is a process of self-revelation, when it is revealing oneself in the very action of relationship. But most of us do not want to be revealed in relationship. On the contrary, we use relationship as a means of covering up our own insufficiency, our own troubles, our own uncertainty. So relationship becomes mere movement, mere activity. I do not know if you have noticed that relationship is very painful, and that as long as it is not a revealing process, in which you are discovering yourself, relationship is merely a means of escape from yourself.~

~J. K

TOTALLY AGREE... it's like putting up a shield around our own vulnerability and imperfection so they have no chance to judge our shortcomings and only see the good side of us. That's what I did in early relationship then realize that i'd just built unhealthy relationship

GLORIA115 tulis:

TOTALLY AGREE... it's like putting up a shield around our own vulnerability and imperfection so they have no chance to judge our shortcomings and only see the good side of us. That's what I did in early relationship then realize that i'd just built unhealthy relationship

Glad you realize it faster sista. Just be ourselves. 😊

What a great sun shiny day.. have a quality time with family 👍🌎

Hello fellas, I am Idy.

Jeez!!! It's also the characteristic of mine. I wrote it on my profile so they won't be surprised while hang out with me. I know there's no reasonable excuse for being so expressive because it leads to misunderstandings.

I'd be glad if sista Liez and sista maya help me to stop being so emotionally transparent :)

LIEZT708

One of life challenges. Still training my facial expression-to not so obvious feels annoyed-when talking to stubborn, annoying, or stupid people.

Learn how to communicate with different character needs process. Eventually, it could works well or failed but... having a goodwill to facing them and encourage ourselves to make it works is something. 😊

Hi IDY...Happy to have you here :)

IDY949

Hello fellas, I am Idy.

Hai guys

Nice finding this forum!!!

And fill it with delightful memories :)

PHABIOLA085

What a great sun shiny day.. have a quality time with family 👍🌎

Hi Gloria, nice to meet you. I saw your profile before n I think your students are totally adorable..perhaps, I would like to change my job into a school high teacher because of it, haha..keep your spirit, God be with you..

They are, raiz and I adore them so much because they are not my students, they are my kids..

If being a teacher is your passion, pursue it then. Trust me, they will keep you young and learn many new skills :)

No day is ever the same..EVER hehe

RAIZ192

Hi Gloria, nice to meet you. I saw your profile before n I think your students are totally adorable..perhaps, I would like to change my job into a school high teacher because of it, haha..keep your spirit, God be with you..

If being a lecturer is a teacher, I am a teacher indeed. But really I love to see young people nowadays and your kids are sparkling in my eyes, lol.

Of course, no day is ever the same..I never see 19 June 2018 twice in calendar (just kidding, hehe)

GLORIA115 tulis:

They are, raiz and I adore them so much because they are not my students, they are my kids..

If being a teacher is your passion, pursue it then. Trust me, they will keep you young and learn many new skills :)

No day is ever the same..EVER hehe

RAIZ192

Hi Gloria, nice to meet you. I saw your profile before n I think your students are totally adorable..perhaps, I would like to change my job into a school high teacher because of it, haha..keep your spirit, God be with you..

Hahaha... Still learning.. 😉

I'd be glad if sista Liez and sista maya help me to stop being so emotionally transparent :)

Welcome, sista.. 😊

AGNES219 tulis:

Hai guys

Nice finding this forum!!!

Hi, Idy..

IDY949 tulis:

Hello fellas, I am Idy.

Ups..I am supposed to visit your profile before replying RAIZ 192.

Oh we're almost same...you are lecturing and I am teaching

Take it easy, everything has a reason. Perhaps you are busy and cannot visit my profile, hehe..

Anyway, wish you happiness with your kids. They are the future of us..

GLORIA115 tulis:

Ups..I am supposed to visit your profile before replying.

Oh we're almost same...you are lecturing and I am teaching

Right...and wish we can inspire our students not only love the academics but also have the Godly caharacter :)

RAIZ192 tulis

Take it easy, everything has a reason. Perhaps you are busy and cannot visit my profile, hehe..

Anyway, wish you happiness with your kids. They are the future of us..

💕🔥   "True Love Is About Growth and Acceptance, Not About Changing Your Partner~~

"When two people are driven by genuine love, not ulterior motives, and have unconditional and true feelings for each other, they ultimately develop into better people.

Those that genuinely love each other do not set any conditions. They ignore their partner’s imperfections and flaws and focus on their good aspects only. They accept their partner as they are for the rest of their lives.

You may have been in a situation where you were driven by motives other than genuine love. Namely, you’ve just made up a perfect partner in your head as well as projected them on somebody.

But, believing that you are able to control somebody and remove their imperfections isn’t right. It’s hypocritical to think so when you yourself are flawed, as well. Even though you’re striving towards perfection, you must stop for a second and think about whether you’re only scared to fall for somebody else and their authentic self.

Rather than trying to identify what should be changed about them, allow yourself to fall in love without paying attention to it. You’ll soon realize that both of you will eventually change to the better.

But, the change must begin with you. If you love each other truly, you’ll motivate each other to become the best version of yourselves. You’ll be the person that they deserve and vice versa.

You won’t force each other to change. You won’t push things though. You’ll have each other’s backs, so that the change will soon come from the inside.

You’ll learn to sacrifice your wants for their benefits. If you love them truly, you won’t sacrifice a temporary want for the well being of them or the relationship.

You’ll love each other passionately, fully, and fiercely. Loving your partner genuinely means loving them with your whole heart and your whole being. This also means loving them when they’re sick, unlovable, depressed, or in a bad mood.

You’ll love them will all of their flaws and imperfections. Nobody is perfect, and loving genuinely means to accept the fact that they’ll fail. And when they do, you’ll forgive them and keep loving them.

It is important to understand that you must start from yourself in the first place. You should learn to love yourself first to love other people. The way you treat yourself is a reflection of how you’ll let other people treat you.

Therefore, love yourself truly and accept all of your weaknesses, failures, and mistakes."   ~Positivity.com